I'm also asexual now and have been for about probably about three or four years. So I have no need of romantic sexual relationships at all. So I don't date and I'm not interested in men. Previously, I was heterosexual and I have lots of very rich friendships and relationships with some of my exboyfriends, in fact. And they're fine with it. They're happy that I'm their friend and I have other friendships and relationships with women and gay men as well
Aayan B
@aayanisms · 2:05
Listen from one exit from the other I don't know. I can probably imagine how difficult it must be to explain, but probably it's best not to cheer. Thanks
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 1:10
Does make it easier for them if people are catching up with me and seeing me and talking to me often, then over time, they come to understand and realize, and hopefully that expands their consciousness if they meet other people like me. Right
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
Aayan B
@aayanisms · 0:15
Well, there's another wicked thing one can do is to give them hope that, you know, this too, shall pass. And who knows, in the future, life might be a little different. And then that will keep them away for a few years, I guess
Sreeja V
@Wordsmith · 2:25
I understand what you mean, Georgie. I hear you. And I can only say that I empathize. You know, I have, over the years, met many of my friends, right, who I have been close to various phases in my life. And then I suddenly realized that perhaps my journey is now different. Right. And yes, of course, the friendship remains, but somewhere I have evolved as a person. And they are on their own trip, right
I'm sure you get this all the time. I mean, it reminds me of the reactions I get when I tell people that I'm I say people when I tell men and that I'm not interested in. There's, like, no right answer because anything you say to them is considered a challenge. And you're right, it's all about them
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 2:51
On the flip side, as someone selfishly, here comes the about me part, where I am still very much so sexual, still very much so into romance that there is a guy that exists in the corner of the world who's willing to walk up to a woman who he finds attractive. That is something that I wish happened more. In my neck of the woods, they'll just stare you down and not even walk over and say anything
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 3:18
And now I think the last bastion is asexuality because people just don't understand it. And aromaticism again, that's a whole other thing. So yeah, that could be seasonal too. Oh, and I don't think of myself as beautiful, but thanks. I don't put investment in, what would you say, people's perception of beauty. I don't invest in it. So flattery will never work on me, for example
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 1:42
So in Australia, men were useless at talking to women. And in Asia, everybody talks to everybody. Like a woman can walk into a cafe, restaurant or a bar on their own and she'll have friends in an instant. And some of them might be attracted to her and some of them, and a lot of them won't. They're just being friendly and inclusive and community minded. And if they are attracted to her, they're not going to be pushy about it
Georgie Dee
@GeorgieDee · 3:33
This is my experience and my business, and I think I attracted the right guys. They were not overtly touchyfeely, but they were deeply connected to me. We were bonded, we had shared experiences. They treated me well. They did a lot of things for me. I did a lot of things for them
That's really the crux of it, isn't it? Someone thinking that you must live according to what they value, find important, etcetera. Whether we're talking romance or morals, etc. Etc. I know that. I've been there. But I also know that to an extent, my thinking was very much conditioned autistic taking things literally, taking things at face value, being told this is the way things are instead of where I'm at now