Oraida Levi
@TalkswithOraida · 4:50
Feminine women according to men👁️👁️
And the reason being is the struggles that women have gone through from the beginning of wanting to be independent, of voting and working and being able to have their own resources in case their spouse passed and they were left with what am I going to do type of thing. But now the struggle is different because finding a dependable partner that's able to lead and protect and serve, it's causing more stress when you don't have someone that is equally driven as you
asi bodur
@notetoself · 3:14
So I'm a breadwinner. And I still had to be in that masculine energy because I still had to protect myself. I still had to take care of myself. I have responsibilities. It's a different type of power. When we get trapped is when we are always stuck in our masculine energy. When we are always day to day in our survival mode. That is when we are unhappy, when we start complaining. And honestly, this rubs off the guys too
But then when all that's over, like the so called player, he's going to somebody else to do that same thing over and over again. And some men do that for years. Some men do it for years. So love is a decision as much as it is a feeling. And I guess, you know, when you're in love is when you're ready to put that person in front of you
That's crazy these days, but it still goes on. And that's the unwritten rule. That's like the primary way of people committing to each other. Some people don't even talk about that. It's like, you better not, or they catch you talking to somebody and be like, what are you doing? And all that. That stuff is, look, that's like 70s for real. That's really crazy right now with all the information that we got
2 cents
@the2cents · 5:00
So now I'm a 40 year old male and addressing the fact that women have having to become into their masculine and taking care of themselves and doing that. That's all. Understood. I do understand scenarios where the spouse passes away, understand where maybe it didn't work out and things to that nature. I think you touched bases on voting and all these things. But back in the day, if a woman left, she didn't get to take the kids. She just got to leave
2 cents
@the2cents · 1:22
You sorry, I cut off my five minutes reached. But I think that's disrespectful to the person who thinks that they are or believes that they are and possibly acting like they are. Just because I said it doesn't mean that can't be true, because we're not necessarily saying anything about if, oh, I went through struggles and I'm a divorcee or I'm this or I'm that. We got to show compassion
You ain't going to go in there and try to overstep her. You're going to let her do what she do. As simple as that. So you just take a backseat, you know what I mean? Same thing with harm sometimes, man. Look, I'm telling you right now, and you could take this with you. Sometimes the best thing to do in a relationship with any woman is to sit down and shut up
2 cents
@the2cents · 1:38
The scenario happened to where he had to say he was an alpha. That's it. But that's not nothing to do with the solution. I would like to hear things that are solution wise. Well, I think that's the healthier part of the conversation
So I don't think it's a problem where somebody talking about a woman's feminine, mom gonna be mom, them wife going to be wife, whatever the case may be, they're doing the best they can what they got, and some of them got more than us. That's how it gets back to the topic. The solution is you deal with people as they are, you love them right where they at
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
2 cents
@the2cents · 4:54
So, so kind of at the end of this little section that you were speaking on, could you got to take a special kind of man to deal with this woman bringing home more bread than her. And then you go, I'm not going to deal with it. That's because why you saying I'm not going to deal with it is insinuating that you're an alpha. So that's a scenario right there
You what's going on, man? Thanks for responding. And I agree with, you know, pretty much all what you said. And we we sound like we, you know, came up a lot of light. I never I never did that 50 50 thing. I believe that I'm there to protect and provide, you know what I mean? I'm there to, you know, mean to be a male. I'm proud of being a male, you know what I mean?
Oraida Levi
@TalkswithOraida · 4:17
I feel that there are good men out there who have those certain values and characteristics of a masculine man, of a provider mindset who will support not just financially their spouse but they'll be there as a good support. And of course there needs to be reciprocation, right? This is not the gold digger mentality, but I feel that the men who are complaining of women not being feminine, they are part of the problem and not the solution