Okay, so they can't walk, but they have other great talents, skills, and abilities. And I don't want their disability to be the focal point, not unless that's what they want. Now, some people love to talk about their disability. They love to bring awareness to their disabilities, and so they don't have a problem talking about it. But should I be the one to initiate that conversation, or should they?
Kalifa Thomas
@MayaDevi · 4:59
I will show you fulfilled if you keep doing things that show that you're ignorant of just how to be a normal human being around somebody with a disability. Oh, I will make you pay. And I have my ways. And they're very subtle, but they're very humiliated. Because if I'm to approach you with respect, especially as an adult, and you do not return that because you feel my disability makes me lessened or anything else, then trust and believe you will pay
Evelyn Phipps
@LadyFi · 1:38
Hey, Tonya, it's interesting that you brought up this subject, because I have a disability, and my husband and I were sitting outside the other day, and the chair that I sit in is not very comfortable when I sit outside. So he's like, well, why don't you bring your walker? Why don't we bring your walker outside and. And you can sit in that?
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:43
And you get that stare from the grandmas and aunt. He's like, you don't pick that boy to beat his butt. And it's like, no, it's not that this kid is having a tantrum. This kid is, you know, is on the spectrum or what have you. It would be nice if people would say, instead of those looks, those judging looks like, oh, my kid would never act like that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:08
And then you were saying how people feel like somehow being physically disabled compromises your ability to understand and comprehend, so now they're speaking to you like you are a child because they feel like since you're in a wheelchair, you just lack the ability to comprehend. It's like, no, you know, you have very, very, very sharp minded individuals who happen to have physical disabilities, so you don't have to dumb down the conversation just because a person has a disability
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:37
You guys live with that every day, you know, and you're fully aware of some of your limitations, but you don't want everybody in life to treat you like you have a bunch of limitations. You want people to treat you as a human being and to treat you, you know, from. From a relational perspective, to treat you as a person who is fully capable. We had a lady at our church who was bound in a wheelchair, and I'm not sure what her
And it was kind of common theme back then in the fifties. And so that's kind of how I found out. He never mentioned it, never talked about that disability. He did everything normal that anybody else would do. And so now with the whole Ada thing, they are no longer called hidden disabilities because they look at that as being offensive, and I forget what they call it now. Invisible or something
Swell Team
@Swell · 0:15
And then if someone, let's say in a wheelchair, what have you, says no, then they move on. And that's an understood thing. But I don't. I don't know. This isn't a very simple yes or no for me type of question, because it also depends on the situation. Now, being an educator or former educator yourself, you get this. You
Shawna Kearsley
@OnAcornBay · 3:59
But underneath it, I think there is a level of empathy there. And when you receive that information, you know, then what. But I also think the person in the wheelchair, for the most part, and I can only speak for John, but I can also speak for my girlfriend, Dominique. And she's the girl in the pink wheelchair, and she just won. Misses wheelchair Marilyn. And sharing that story helps others
Braxxton Brown
@Br33zy · 2:46
Hey, Miss Coles, how are you doing about this one? I think it's levels to it. I think anyone, well, if they're aware that they have a disability, I think anyone with a disability has to go out into the world. The assumption that there's always going to be that one person that's going to ask. There's always going to be that one person that's going to be disrespectful, because, I mean, we're all humans
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:10
Meanwhile, this animal is trying to snap at people, jump at people, bark all through the store, making all kinds of noise. I mean, really, he may be emotionally supporting you, but he's aggravating the heck out of the rest of us. And so, yeah, these emotional support animals, they need to have some type of regulation behind that. There needs to be some type of regulation behind these, quote unquote, emotional support animals. Thank you so much
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:06
And then some people are embarrassed by their disability, unfortunately. They're embarrassed about being in a wheelchair. They're embarrassed about needing a walker. They're embarrassed about having prosthetic limbs. You know, there's some embarrassment that comes for some people. So, you know, I pray that all disabled people grow to a place of empowerment and that our society and culture will empower them in their disability
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:48
And so, you know, these videos really help to educate people on how folks who have disabilities can still live a pretty normal life, that they're not completely dependent on other people to do everything for them, but that they can do a lot of things on their own. And so I like seeing those kind of videos because it helps me to grow. In my understanding, I don't have any disabled folks in my family that, you know, rely on special equipment and things like that
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 1:24
Hey, breezy. Thank you so much for your response. You're right. There are certain expectations that I'm sure people with disabilities have. They expect people to ask somebody to ask or the topic to come up in conversation, even if they're the ones that start that conversation