Sometimes you lose your identity without even being in a relationship. Perhaps you're just walking around and you just haven't looked to yourself in the mirror to see who you really are. Having a lack of identity is just not knowing who you are, what you really deserve as a person, just knowing the in and outs of yourself
Eluchianna Olive
@Luchianna · 4:10
And one thing I found that interesting about when you're trying to truly identify yourself, your true self is you have to accept all parts of yourself. Even the not so good part. Even the part that you want to hide from yourself. You don't think that's in the shadows? I think often I say to my friends that are in relationship, you have to go into one knowing who you are 100%
Dewuan .
@FryedOreo · 5:00
It doesn't feel like it's opening up the world of possibilities. It's closing off these possibilities because you found this finite reason of being an existing where when I look towards the cosmos, it doesn't really seem like there's anything of a reason other than just chaos. But that's a matter of my belief, right, that you were talking about it's my personal belief that we are providing meaning to things that really outside of this cone of the human experience means nothing
I'm like, no, I need to continue to do me, because I'm not doing anything to really cause that relationship to be where it is unfavorably. I'm just doing me and being honest with my truth and my journey and my life and how I believe God is moving forward and also where I know my wellbeing is
If we say that who we are is based on a particular belief or idea then if that idea or belief is challenged or questioned in any way then we perceive it as a challenge to self. And I think that these are all different ways of how who we are can come crumbling down if we build our identity on a collage of these other stories, these other ideas, these external things
J.L. Beasley
@Her_Sisu · 4:21
Because another person, before you can even get into a relationship with another person, one it's helpful if one has a solid foundation and answers to that question. And I've been married before twice. And I heard you say people get married, they get divorced, and then they have to remember who they are. And that's the part, that's the key piece. That's the magic wand. That's the power. If we maintain
Aayan B
@aayanisms · 4:41
Very interesting swell. This is Ian and I just did another swell which I will probably summarize and share here. It's the separation of the role versus the identity. But sometimes people use interoperably and wrongly at that somewhere. We have to separate the role that we execute at that given point in time versus who we are as an individual, as a person within. And as much as we intertwined them. I think a smart way of dealing with it is to clearly demarcate
Oraida Levi
@TalkswithOraida · 1:09
Of course, it would be, I guess, not as fun to remain the same person over the years. A good example is you're not the same person you were ten years ago versus now. So your identity tends to change according to the situations and circumstances that occur in your life. So again, thank you so much for stopping by and adding to the conversation. I really appreciate every and each of you. Till next time