Hey, swell family. I hope you're having a great Saturday. So, you know, we live in the world of challenges, online, social media challenges. It seems like there's one after another after another. So now there's a challenge circulating where single mothers ask their children, why do you think I'm a single mom? And so I saw a little compilation video that showed several of these
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 3:37
And what else, you know, just because you're a single mom, why do you get a conference ticket? So it's kind of like that. Woe is me. I'm a single mom. Everybody's supposed to help me. I'm needy, needy, needy. Or it's the single mom is a super mom, right? And so I think that my son still thinks that his dad and I are married because I don't. I don't like broadcast being a single mom
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 1:07
So some of the answers about mom's personality or her quirks that maybe keeping her single do seem a little off to me because I never really, again, maybe the ages of the kids makes a difference, but I never would have looked at my mom as non dateable or not compatible to someone. I would have just thought, well, her and my dad are divorced and she never goes out to meet anyone else, period
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:25
It's kind of like there's a hierarchy of sorts, where better if you're a single mom whose children have the same father and all have the same last name, versus the single mother who may have more than one father, you're a better single mother if you were married to your children's father at one point versus the single mother who was never married to her children's father. It's kind of like there's this hierarchy that exists within the single mom group
Angela Kaye
@AnngieKaye · 4:40
And clearly, I enjoy motherhood, so I just tell women, like, don't cut yourself off. Like, just don't put yourself in this. I've used goods. Don't nobody want me. You know, that's a really bad way to look at yourself, because that's not necessarily the case. And not everybody wants to remarry and start a new relationship. Blending families is not easy, but, you know, I believe love is worth it
Erica Jean
@HeyItsErica · 2:40
And the kids do not understand that part, you know? But what they do understand is that daddy's not in the home and mommy's going crazy. That's what they do understand. But. But, yeah, this is what happens when there's no father in the home. My situation is definitely the exception and not the rule. Not many thumb people of are raised by their dads
dee felton
@MrDee · 4:57
Hey, I just wanted to touch on your topic, and it's a very heartfelt topic. You know, I think that in, I'm gonna say, quote, our culture and cult, we're tired. We're taught to look at being a single mom as a superpower, but in reality, it's a superpower that not all have to have
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:35
And so I don't think that anybody wants to do that by themselves. And so I can see where it could bring out some of those negative emotions, maybe unintentionally. It's not that, you know, the parent wants to be snippy. It's not that the parent has a hot temper or any of that. It's just that they're carrying the stress of financially supporting a family on their own. They're carrying the stress of having to make all the parenting decisions on their own
Tanya Coles
@MsColes77 · 3:03
Hey, Mister D. Thank you so much for your response. One thing that you said that really stood out to me was when you said that society wants us to look at being a single mother as a superpower. And that's true. That's true. They want us to celebrate the single mother. And you even have some women that will, you know, pat themselves on the back and say they're a proud single mother
dee felton
@MrDee · 4:26
Hey, I just wanted to tackle on a little bit more in response to your response, and it's not necessarily, you know, debating with you, but I feel like if somebody else listens to your swell, they may need to hear, you know, more on that perspective as well. Yes, society teaches us that you don't need a man. And, you know, the world is becoming or has become accustomed to that